You want to please people at the wedding, which means looking at some great groom toast ideas on how to communicate the right words.
Previously I talked about forgetting to thank someone can be extremely awkward but saying the wrong thing altogether in your groom toast would be a catastrophe!
I really made sure I avoided this, so I did some research on some great tips to guarantee a smooth sail and avoid any embarrassing situations.
Bride and Groom Relationship
One of the things that you should avoid is talking about your Bride’s previous relationships. This may seem obvious but you will be amazed at how clueless some grooms can be!
Perhaps you want to compare your Bride in a positive light by trying to show where you went wrong with other women in your life. Simply put, do not do this and if your Bride is anything like mine then she will not appreciate. Indeed it will go down like a lead balloon.
You must always be speaking of your bride honorably at all times. It might some funny to throw in a joke aiming at teasing your bride but on your wedding day it is not the right time or the right place.
I wanted my speech to focus on what I knew and our relationship together and of course saying what my beautiful bride would want me to say. This worked well and she was very pleased!
When you have put so much effort in preparing your speech on the day, the last thing you need is to destroy it all with too much alcohol intake. Clearly drinking too much will more than likely bring anyone down and not just revealing the error of their ways. It will cause them to forget to speak the right words and worse say all the wrong things.
To be honest with you, I didn’t drink at all before my speech and waited until after I completed my toast. After this, I then let my hair down a bit and enjoyed myself.
Some Other Tips and Suggestions
I will not deny that I found the ideas of groom speeches quite stressful to me. But this was my own doing or rather undoing. You see I never planned ahead. If you do not plan ahead means that you will not be in control of the situation and what you want to deliver.
The truth is you are going to be under a lot of stress. That is just the nature of the beast as they say.
Even when you are well prepared, when you are anxious or nervous you will find it more difficult to communicate what you want to say as things will slip from your mind. So it pays well to be properly prepared so when you lose your train of thought with your groom’s toast you can bring yourself back into focus again.
Fortunately, this is a wealth of resources and help online for those who are looking for even funny or witty wedding speeches that do not offend anyone.
The other advice I want to give you that no matter how well you prepare or say your words if you go on for too long then it will likely bore people and make then restless.
Your Audience will have a limited retention rate, this is how human psychology works. People will get to a peak of excitement and enthusiasm and then it will naturally fall away. So try to say your toast so it does not go on for too long.
I would say try to keep within 5 minutes but within 10 minutes at a maximum.
How do you feel about giving your groom toast and what ideas have you found that have helped you? Feel free to comment below.